The Curious Case of Assumptions
It stands to reason that the longer we are in relationship with another person, the more we can predict their behaviors and patterns. After many years together, a couple will have a shorthand with each other; finishing sentences and correctly interpreting an icy glare or a cheeky smirk from across the room. This inner knowing of your partner is a blessing and curse as many times it goes against another real truth about being human; that we are often unpredictable, always complex and ever-evolving creatures.
Can we Solve for Uncertainty?
The world is an uncertain place. This is an understatement, I know. Many times we find ourselves grasping for control, only to find that the more we grasp, the more pain we cause ourselves and those around us.
So how do we live with the discomfort of uncertainty?
The Impassable Test
Why do we test? Testing a partner usually involves a series of not-so-flattering behaviors conducted consciously or unconsciously in a counterproductive effort to establish safety in a relationship. Let’s look at what testing is and how to overcome the tester in you!